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Disconcerting News

August 19th, 2020 at 02:27 am

When I got home today from taking our 19 yr old cat, Baby, to the vet (who we were thinking we'd have to let go of two weeks ago .. but he's holding on,) I got a Facetime call from my mom.

I had literally just walked in the door. If she'd called a few minutes earlier, I would've missed the call.

I think I've mentioned before that I was adopted by my dad. My mom, is my biological mom, but the man who was my dad, adopted me when I was 2 1/2, shortly after marrying my mom. He died back in June of 2012.

So ... the news my mom had for me today. My biological dad, who still lived in the town I was born in, had died. His memorial service will be on Saturday.

I wasn't really sure how I felt about it when she told me, and I'm still not sure how I feel about it now.

He never made any attempt to reach out to me over the years - not even when I attended college for two years in my birth town. (Not why I went there, but ... still...) So, I don't know that I feel a sense of loss per se ... unless it is the loss of the opportunity to ever show off what he missed out on (if I ever actually lose enough weight to feel like showing off ...)

Sammy, mama cat, is doing okay. After getting a shot (pain meds? antibiotics? don't recall) she perked up a lot.

Our cats (Baby and Sammy this year) are sure eating through our pet funds this year.

6 Responses to “Disconcerting News”

  1. Turtle Lover Says:

    I am happy to see your post but also sadded by your loss. I had a situation like yours except I didn't know of any funeral just heard that he had died. I don't ever miss not going to a funeral or having any kind of closure or anything although sometimes I do wonder about him and stuff like that. Stuff that going to a funeral wouldn't help me with. ((hugs)) Happy news that the kitty is doing better and I pray it continues :-)

  2. Petunia 100 Says:

    I think in your place (and I will be in it one day), I would feel nothing too.

    And he did miss out. You are fabulous, at any weight.

  3. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    Thank you. I guess I never really considered how I’d feel if I knew he died. So it really came out of left field for me.

  4. My English Castle Says:

    It's the closing of something, isn't it, Laura? Wishing you peace through this. Big hugs

  5. VS_ozgirl Says:

    I suppose it would be nice to see the other half of your DNA but that’s all he is. Maybe he left you alone because you were in a stable family. Can only speculate? He did miss out on you though, you are a great person. My thoughts are with you though. Ps glad to hear Sammy perked up and hoping that both Sammy and Baby continue to be ok. (Ps I am still paying back our cat Gemma’s ashes and our dog Jessie’s vet bills! They are not cheap in their older years!)

  6. MonkeyMama Says:

    Sorry to hear of your loss. {{HUGS}}
    So glad to hear that Sammy is doing okay.

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