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Brother Confirmed!!

January 23rd, 2016 at 01:25 pm

While I was at church today I got a text from my brother confirming that he WILL be free the weekend of April 23/24. So I'm definitely getting hitched on the 24th! Big Grin

I also talked to the person who does the photography for the church. She told me she's not done any weddings, but she recommended someone in the church who does. I'll contact him tomorrow. I'll also contact several people I found advertising on Craigslist - one of them said they only charged $300 for 2 hours? Wondering if that's a scam, or they're really inexperienced??

Instead of doing Chinese buffet food for the reception, I've decided to make it an afternoon tea reception. People aren't going to be very hungry after the breakfast/brunch provided by the b&b.

I'm going to check on Craigslist and FB garage sale to see how many teapots/saucers/teacups I can borrow/rent/buy to use. I also found someone who rents out cake stands - can use them for the cake, but also for putting the finger foods on (for the tea.)

Part of the ceremony will be a community unity service. Mr FT and I will each light our own candle, and then use it to light a big candle. Then light the candle of someone on either side of us (probably my mom and his sister) and then progressively light all the guests candles. Kind of symbolically saying that everyone there is standing behind us/with us.

I'm thinking that this is when I'll have my brother sing "Broken Roads" by Rascal Flatts. (If you've never heard it, it's a beautiful song, and I think it is very fitting to Mr FT and I's relationship.)

I really like the idea of entering to Edelweiss - it's like a symbol of me saying goodbye to my single life (like the Von Trapps were saying goodbye to Austria.) I don't want to do the traditional marching thing (have no sense of rhythm) and won't have anyone marching in front of me.

I'm thinking of using teapots as part of my centerpiece decorations. I also have an email in to someone on Craigslist who has some beautiful light purple decorations - seeing if she'll sell me just a portion of what she has.


What did you do for hair/makeup for your wedding? (i.e. Did you do it yourself, go to a salon, have someone come to you? Something else?)

Confession time. I broke down today and ordered pizza delivery. I haven't done that in a LONG time. With tip, it'll be $16. It's coming out of my spending money. (Yes, I know I could go to the store and get it cheaper. I just don't want to go out again - so cold!)

23 Responses to “Brother Confirmed!!”

  1. alice4now Says:

    I love the teapot idea! I bet if you spread the word around the church family you will get plenty to borrow for the day! I think you can also borrow some cake stands as well as rent them, a very cute idea for finger foods, I did that for my dessert table as well.

  2. MonkeyMama Says:

    I like the tea idea! & great to have such a good sounding board. (When I got married everyone else wanted the big wedding but I was stuck planning it. Had no idea what I was doing, had maybe been to a couple of weddings ever).

    I did my own hair and make up. Have never hired anyone for that stuff. I probably didn't realize people hire that stuff out, which was good. Money saved on something no one cared about.

    As to the mom, lord knows. What part does she want to pay in the wedding?

  3. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    Great idea Alice! I bet I could borrow quite a few - teapots/cups at least. Maybe cake stands too.

    MM - You caught it before I deleted the question. Smile It's not the wedding itself, I think she's worried my grandma will throw a hissy fit about having to sit near her. (My grandma and aunt don't have warm fuzzy feelings towards my mom to put it mildly. Supposedly my grandma did this at my brother's wedding, and mom was relegated to a far away table.)

    I'm so glad to have a great sounding board Smile People who know me (virtually and in real life) AND have the same mindset (frugal!) I've been to LOTS of weddings over the years. Was a bridesmaid in at least 4 that I can think of. Mr FT has been to two. So he has no idea when I talk about traditions, etc. Smile
    I'm not that great doing my own hair, and don't really wear makeup. I could just start experimenting different hairstyles until I find something that I like AND can do easily on the day. I do think I'll get a real hair cut and highlights though beforehand .. Smile

  4. creditcardfree Says:

    I had my hair done. Honestly, I didn't really like how it turned out looking back. Although, I probably would have freaked out doing my own. And it would have ended up the same way. I believe you can get do trial runs with your hair at good salons. Or maybe a beauty school! I think you would want a little make up on for pictures so you don't look too washed out, but it is up to you of course!

    People make cake stands out of plates and candle holders found at thrift shops.

  5. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    For my mom's last wedding I had my hair and makeup done, and really loved how it turned out. I would definitely wear makeup - for the washed out reason, but also because I know Mr FT loves it when I wear makeup. He's okay that I don't wear it normally, but when we go out to eat or do something else kind of different/special I like to wear it then. Smile
    Interesting idea!!! I think I need to do some thrift store browsing. Smile

  6. Jenn Says:

    I wasn't familiar with that song - it is indeed really beautiful! And your brother can sing it? Wow.

  7. Butterscotch Says:

    I did my own hair and makeup and honestly I regretted when I saw my wedding photos. I had a beautiful dress, something I will never wear again, truly special - but I was just 'normal' from the neck up. I actually thought I had done a good job on my hair and make up, and I did, for maybe a date or a work function, but it wasn't enough for a wedding. I just had an everyday head on a special day body, lol!

  8. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    Jenn - My brother is a pretty awesome singer. He tried out for American Idol and I couldn't believe he didn't get past the tryouts. I don't think he'll have a problem singing it. Smile If he does, then I *know* he can do God Gave Me You, because he sang that for another wedding. Smile Maybe I'll have him sing both. Big Grin
    Butterscotch - That's kind of what I'm afraid of for me too. Most expensive dress I'll ever wear, most money I'll ever spend on a party/photos etc....

  9. Ima saver Says:

    I just looked up the lyrics to "Broken Road" I love it! You are going to have a wonderful wedding!

  10. Ima saver Says:

    P>S> Just remember, to have fun on your special day! (My daughter stepped on my dress and ripped it, but I didn't even blink! Now it is part of a special memory of that day.)

  11. creditcardfree Says:

    I personally think that your wedding is the most fun you will ever have at any wedding! Definitely go with the flow on the day of the wedding. My bouquet had way too much pink from what I requested. I could have been upset, but they were still pretty so I just went with it. What can you do really at that point?

  12. Livingalmostlarge Says:

    How much fun!

  13. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    I definitely plan on just going with the flow of it all and enjoy the time with family and friends and celebrating a brand new chapter in my life. Smile
    It should prove to be interesting - found out that my uncle might not get there til early Sunday morning ... so will miss the rehearsal. Hopefully we can get together on FaceTime or something and go over the plans enough ... or maybe have a quick rehearsal Sunday morning before breakfast with just him, Mr FT and I.

  14. snafu Says:

    I too plead for professional make-up and hair...just because of the pictures. While a professional photographer is important, you can ask friends to take pics aand selfies of things they particularly enjoyed. These are easily emailed to you and you can choose those that touch your heart for an album from Shutterfly, for your enjoyment at minimum every annual anniversary.

    Suggest invitation ready to mail-out March 11th. Have all details been confirmed with officiant [readings/quotes/homilies on marriage]? *oops don't know your traditions. Will you write any of your vows to personalize? What sound system does B&B have? Since you will likely be getting ready, who will function as host for brunch? Background music to precede ceremony, background music at afternoon tea? Options for internal family squabbles?

    ...just unedited thoughts

  15. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    Snafu - I'm probably going to go with a professional for hair/makeup. I was just curious what other people did. Smile Definitely will be asking guests to take pictures as well.

    I'm going to try to have the invitations ready to go by March 5 at the latest. Most of our guests have already been informed of the date/place.

    Nope - all I've confirmed with my uncle (officiant) is that he's coming and will do the ceremony. I don't have the ceremony planned out completely yet. I'd thought about writing vows, but then realized that neither of us probably would actually be able to read/remember them. So, will probably go with traditional vows.

    The brunch is put on by the b&b, so I have no responsibility for it. Smile
    I'm probably going to use the same music Mr FT puts together for the rehearsal dinner for the reception - maybe a few different selections. Haven't figured out pre-ceremony music. Internal family squabbles? Wish I knew. Just hoping they'll behave like adults for one day.

  16. Amber Says:

    Aw I'm so glad your brother will be able to attend. Also check out your local dollar store, maybe in the toys section you'll find a few ceramic tea cups.

    Pinterest also have some cool dollar store wedding ideas.

    Congratulations 💕

  17. scottish girl Says:

    That's great news about your brother. My hairdresser came in the morning to do my hair, my mum's friend done my make up and her daughter gave me a manicure the night before. It's such a quick day so just enjoy every moment Smile

  18. VS_ozgirl Says:

    The afternoon tea is a very classy idea! I had my hair and makeup done and I don't recall it being very expensive. I would always advise getting it done because of how it comes up in the photos (soooo much better) and how time strapped you will be. It's your wedding, it's your big day, you want to look wonderful for years to come (good photography is also one of the most important things) and as the host you'll be on your feet nonstop dealing with all kinds of things - you simply won't have time for doing your hair and makeup to wedding standard. The teapots sound cute and Edelweiss sounds sweet to walk down the aisle too. You are doing great!

  19. MonkeyMama Says:

    I will say I didn't care about photos and didn't hire a photographer. I only wish we had married in the digital age where we could have gotten a lot more candid photos. We would have LOVED that. Those candid shots are my favorite photos from our own wedding. You'll get the best of both worlds.

    I looked up the Rascall Flats song and it is beautiful!

  20. rob62521 Says:

    First, congrats on working out the details

    I think the afternoon tea will be delightful!

  21. CB in the City Says:

    I did my own hair and makeup when I got married. I wore a Juliet cap, so my hair was very simple, just a smooth bob. I've always hated having anyone "do" me. When my son got married, my DIL arranged for a hairdresser for all the bridesmaids and moms. My hair was teased and sprayed -- I hated it! And no, it did not look good in pictures! It looked like a helmet. But it was her day, not mine, and it didn't matter how I looked.

    If you do go the professional route, be sure that the stylist understands your personal style.

  22. LuckyRobin Says:

    I did my own makeup and hair. The trick to the makeup is to do it just short of stage makeup. It turned out really well in the photos. It's not hard. There are youtube videos that show how to do stage makeup and you could practice quite a bit and then decide from there if you are comfortable. Also take a few photos in your makeup about the distance a photographer would be and see how the makeup looks on camera. My hair has always been easy to style and holds a style well, so I had no problem with doing it. Someone with more difficult hair would want a stylist.

    The price for the photographer is probably just the price for their time. Then you'll likely pay per print after that. My cousin is a professional photographer and she charges $500 for her time and then for each print. That was how our wedding photographer did it, too, but she usually makes a profit of $2000 total per wedding shoot. You might ask our resident photographer how she does it to see if it is likely this way as well. She shoots weddings. Is it PJMama? The initials that show up for the user name are TD.

  23. Dido Says:

    All sounds very lovely! I've never been married, and have never been a member of the wedding party (in fact, I can remember only four weddings that I ever even attended), so thanks for the behind-the-scenes look at your plans.

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