My list of Ten Things ... and other stuff

September 6th, 2014 at 06:45 pm

I decided to not go to church today. It probably isn't that good of a thing isolating myself .. but I just didn't feel like dealing with people today.

One thing that I've been thinking about now with having ended the relationship that brought me here, is ... Thanksgiving and Christmas and my birthday ... I don't have any vacation time allowed until after February 1. So it isn't like I could go anywhere for the holidays. I had thought I'd spend them with NE, but obviously that isn't going to happen.

Maybe I'll have made a friend by then here. It just feels like yet another stinky consequence of my move here. Don't get me wrong, overall I still believe the move was a good thing. I guess I just didn't really consider how holidays/birthdays would be if things didn't work between NE and I.

Just feeling really low right now.

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I did make my list of ten things I would like to do in the near future or a bit further. The local community college has a great continuing education program, as well as online courses - which is where I'm thinking of accomplishing some of this. In fact, that idea was given to me because of a school catalog that was left on a bus on Tuesday.

Here are the links to my posts about the list:

Items 1 and 2

http://www.bubblews.com/news/6772857-ten-things-i-want-to-do...

Items 3 - 5
http://www.bubblews.com/news/6823592-ten-things-i-want-to-do...

Items 6 - 8
http://www.bubblews.com/news/6823779-ten-things-i-want-to-do...

Items 9 - 10
http://www.bubblews.com/news/6831300-ten-things-i-want-to-do...

There are other things I'm thinking about too, more financial wise, but that is for another time. The items above are more for a mental/social/emotional well being standpoint.

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14 Responses to “My list of Ten Things ... and other stuff”

Joanie Says:
September 6th, 2014 at 07:08 pm 1410030500
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Great list! The sewing and belly dance classes will put you in touch with like minded people (and the belly dance will help with all those good endorphins). I met one of my closest friends in a community college weaving class about 10 years ago. I found I had to force myself to stick with the class the first month or so and then I was having too much fun to think about stopping. I'm still taking a class a semester all these years later. If you haven't met people that you'd like to spend the holidays with by Nov/Dec - think about volunteering at the local soup kitchen or whoever does holiday meals for the homeless. (Plowshares in my town in Northern California) Again, you meet like minded people and are doing something that helps others and makes you feel good.
snafu Says:
September 6th, 2014 at 07:13 pm 1410030795
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I wish I knew what words to use that would encourage you to go to church when you are feeling low and not wanting to get involved with people. I wish I could propel you out-the-door. Love your 10 things to do. Pick one or two and GO girl. The Spanish class sounds like a triple win building on an existing skill, helpful for work and lots of new people to meet.
FrugalTexan75 Says:
September 6th, 2014 at 07:16 pm 1410030962
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Thanks Probably limiting myself to one class a semester would be a good thing - both so I don't get myself overwhelmed by having too many evenings taken up with stuff to do, and also so it won't be cost prohibitive. Maybe one online class and one in person class .. hmm.. It isn't like the classes are going to go away.
You are right about the volunteering idea. It is something I would've liked to have done before, but never could get anyone to do with me. (Well, I sort of did one Christmas Eve - helped out at a hotel room for homeless people event in Dallas. That was awesome - my dad and grandma and aunt were all there too, just not at the event itself.)
FrugalTexan75 Says:
September 6th, 2014 at 07:18 pm 1410031083
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Thanks Snafu.

I know letting myself stay home and not interact isn't the best way to fight being lonely or make friends. I guess it is just easier to do since I haven't made any real connections there yet that I'm excited or anxious to see ..
Looking Forward Says:
September 6th, 2014 at 10:40 pm 1410043248
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Maybe your brother could come out for one of those?
Hang in there FT!
FrugalTexan75 Says:
September 6th, 2014 at 10:44 pm 1410043457
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Maybe, except he just started a new position one week ago. He's back in Napa - both of us seemed to end our relationships about the same time.
Thrifty Ray Says:
September 7th, 2014 at 03:45 am 1410061521
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I wish you could come here for a visit- would love to see you Laura! I like the idea of one class at a time- it allows you to learn without spreading yourself too thin. Sending big hugs your way- XO
FrugalTexan75 Says:
September 7th, 2014 at 03:49 am 1410061768
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Thanks Ray, I'd love to see you again too.
Tabs Says:
September 7th, 2014 at 02:29 pm 1410100157
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Ah yeah, the major holidays have always been the hardest times for me too. However, I do like your ten list. #7 made me chuckle, but I imagine it would be very difficult. Fresh eggplant is surprisingly good though.
creditcardfree Says:
September 7th, 2014 at 03:08 pm 1410102485
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I also slipped back into drinking soda...after nearly three years of not drinking it! It just happened this spring and summer. I keep telling myself I will stop. I do remember how it felt to stop and how often I would think of having a pop. It is a true addiction. I had to just keep reminding myself that I didn't drink it anymore. I may need to start tracking that here on SA, because I know I won't regret quitting again.
FrugalTexan75 Says:
September 7th, 2014 at 03:53 pm 1410105226
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Tabs - I do like eggplant, and my plan is to attempt it again next weekend with my next grocery trip. I will do this!

CCF - Wow! You would think after 3 years the habit would be gone. Sometimes I think that caffeine is a drug as bad as any illicit one - with how it draws you back to it.
creditcardfree Says:
September 7th, 2014 at 11:04 pm 1410131094
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The habit WAS gone, but after getting a taste of Diet Dr Pepper a couple times this spring on some outings, it started calling my name again. I currently have none in the house and did go some days without it in recent weeks. I'll keep trying. I might try making green ice tea sweetened with stevia for awhile and see if that helps break the habit.
CB in the City Says:
September 8th, 2014 at 01:45 pm 1410183924
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Awesome list, Laura.

About the holidays -- I know -- let's all go visit Laura! Wouldn't it be nice?

I have had to spend holidays all alone, too, and they were never as bad as I thought they would be. You've got to have a plan to get through the day. Don't just hang around. However, I remember one Christmas when I played my boys' video games all day and ate peanut butter sandwiches. For some reason, it was a great day!
snafu Says:
September 8th, 2014 at 03:09 pm 1410188985
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Holidays: I suggest starting now to find out what you can do to help those less fortunate celebrate important holidays. We've helped serve Christmas dinner at our city's largest shelter when DSs were teens, old enough to wash dishes. It was such a positive experience I've volunteered each holiday our sons were unable to come home. Seniors, hospitals, service organizations, police & firefighters all are short handed for their holiday events for example.

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