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June 6th, 2012 at 03:39 pm

Thank you everyone for your prayers and condolences. I found out a bit more about what happened. His balloon failed and so they had to rush him into emergency surgery even though they knew that he wasn't really stable enough. About 2:30 a.m. CA time his heart completely failed.

My principal is taking me into G in about 90 minutes so I can pick up some snacks for the train, then leave about 7:30.

It's been hitting really hard off and on today, every time it hits the reality sinks in more. My brother is in the really angry stage right now. I hope I can help him through this. Frown

It sure doesn't help that grandma and aunt don't want our mom anywhere near whatever services we end up having. They blame her for most of his problems the past 9+ years (really long sad involved story.)

I plan on fighting that. No matter what her problems, or their problems, they did love each other. She was his one and only wife for a total of 26 years. Not to mention that she's our mom!!!

They also want to have a private ceremony because they're afraid that some horrible person is going to bring up a lapse of good judgement my dad had about 9 years ago (large part of the hell he's been through since then.) I feel strongly that that would be really dishonoring the good, loving, Christian man he was 99.9% of his life. I don't know how much I can fight this though, because they hold the power (i.e. money strings.) I just don't think that anyone would be so hard hearted or incredulously callous to inflict that kind of pain on the family of a dead man.

We have already made one decision which I'm satisfied with - cremating dad and adding his ashes with his father's. He loved his dad very much, and has always said that when he died that he wanted the same song that was played at his father's funeral "Precious Lord, take my hand."

Another song I know he'd want - "I don't need to understand, I just need to hold his hand." He loved the musical group Ponder, Harp and Jennings and that was one of his most cherished songs of theirs.

I guess when I get there tomorrow we'll have to start going through his things and divvying them up. That just feels like a horrible prospect to me, but I know it has to be done.

I've told mom to please make sure her will is updated and that she has a list or general notes of what she'd want for her funeral. This having to fight it out with other family members and having to guess at it, is for the birds.

22 Responses to “Thank You”

  1. NJDebbie Says:

    Laura, I'm so sorry for your loss. I grieve for my Dad every day and he's been gone for two years now. Take care of yourself ((HUGS)).

  2. Looking Forward Says:

    Laura, I am SO SORRY for your loss! ((HUGS)) & more ((HUGS)). I just got back home from my gma's memorial and your posts were the first I saw.
    Prayers for you and all your family. Take care.

  3. Joanne Says:

    Laura, I am deeply sorry for your loss. So sorry about your Dad. Take care of yourself..

  4. MonkeyMama Says:

    I have been sad all day thinking about you. Frown

  5. littlegopher Says:

    So sorry about your dad - prayers for you and your family. Take care.

  6. patientsaver Says:

    I'm so very sorry for your loss.

  7. Shiela Says:

    I'm so sorry for your loss Laura.
    Take care.

  8. creditcardfree Says:

    ((Hugs)) May you find comfort in the wonderful memories of your father.

  9. Thrifty Ray Says:

    Laura = I hope your grandma and aunt will rethink. This is a time in your life that you and your brother will need your mom. I will pray for a safe journey and for some peace when you get there. Just take your emotions as they come..eventually it gets better - but for now, you can only take it moment to moment. {{hugs}}

  10. Swimgirl Says:

    Laura, I'm so, so sorry. Very sad news.

  11. snafu Says:

    Laura, please accept sincere condolences. Words are inadequate but I hope the memories of happy times help you through this difficult time

  12. M E 2 Says:

    My deepest and sincerest sympathies to you, your family and your father's friends.

  13. wowitsawonderfullife Says:

    So sorry to hear of your loss.

  14. jewels3 Says:

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  15. PNW Mom Says:

    So very sorry.....my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  16. Ima saver Says:

    Hugs to you. I am so sorry for your loss.

  17. LuckyRobin Says:

    I'm so sorry for the loss of your father, Laura. I haven't been reading the blogs regularly so missed this and had to go back and read it. I lost my dad earlier this year. My thoughts are with you.

  18. SicilyYoder Says:

    Condolences and hugs sent. Please email me at beachgirlky@gmail.com.

  19. Jerry Says:

    I'm really sorry to read about your dad. I wish you peace and healing while you deal with this loss...

  20. miclason Says:

    I havenīt been here for a long time and just found out about this... so sorry for your loss! ((hugs))

  21. SicilyYoder Says:

    Happy Sabbath!

  22. Dido Says:

    Laura, I haven't been around for a while and just saw this. I'm so sorry for your loss, and glad you have family to help you at this difficult time.

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