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Feeling Frustrated

October 5th, 2009 at 02:31 pm

I just got back home from work to find a note on my door from my landlady. Essentially it said that the longest that I can stay here is till Oct 2010.

Apparently there was a huge misunderstanding.

When I was looking at this place as a possibility, I remember stating several times that I was looking for something for several *years* because the program I'm in will *take* several years. I guess she didn't hear me say that, or it didn't register or something.

The soonest I'll be finished with my degree program is May 2011.

The thought of having to move again, even a year from now, makes me sick to my stomach.

I *think* Spring classes end in April, and then May you can take a 3-week short class before the regular summer classes begin. So ... probably the best time for me to move somewhere else would be in May.
August wouldn't be a good month, because I think there'd only be a two-week break between the end of summer classes and Fall classes.

I just feel like screaming myself hoarse right now!!!!!

14 Responses to “Feeling Frustrated”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Oh...I'm so sorry. It's too bad that things aren't starting out well. Relax. Keep your eyes open for something better.

  2. homebody Says:

    I am sorry.

  3. ceejay74 Says:

    Sorry to hear that. Is she relatively approachable? Maybe you could try asking her why that deadline--if it's arbitrarily imposed, perhaps she would be able to stretch it out for six more months and you could finish school before having to move.

    If not, well, at least you have a whole year to consider your other options, and you basically need have no loyalty to her, so you can move the second a good prospect opens up.

  4. frugaltexan75 Says:

    Thanks everyone.

    The reason she gave me is that she and her kids have had roommates for years and that she'd promised them that there would be no more roommates after the summer of 2010. So, no, I don't think the date is flexible. Frown
    I'm feeling way overemotional about this right now - though I think its more about the dogs than the moving.

  5. Broken Arrow Says:

    Ah, that's terrible. But hopefully, a year is enough to make the moving process much easier on you.

  6. wowitsawonderfullife Says:

    A lot can change over the next year. I wouldn't stress about it now. Let it go for a few months and see how things are in the new year. Not worth worrying about now - you should focus all of your energy on school.

  7. scfr Says:

    It's completely understandable why you feel so frustrated. You've just finished the exhausting & time consuming business of dealing with a move, and the last thing you want to do is think about having to do it again. The good thing is that you don't have to think about it right now ... wait 6 - 8 months and then think about it!

    A couple of "silver lining" things:
    1. She gave you LOTS of advance notice. I don't know what the laws are, but she probably could have waited until about a month prior and then dropped the bombshell.
    2. IF there is a next move, it will be a lot easier than the last one. You have a lot less stuff now.
    3. Regarding the dogs, you will find a way to have dogs in your life, even if you are not living in that house!

  8. monkeymama Says:

    SCFR said it wisely. Plus you know before you get too attached.

    But, it does suck. Wanted to give you a hug through the computer. ((HUG)) I don't get the feeling that 2009 is going to go down as a fond year for you. ! Hopefully in 2010 you will find super awesome living arrangements.

  9. frugaltexan75 Says:

    Thanks BA.


    Thanks. You're right, a lot could change over the next year.


    You hit it. I am still recovering from the whole moving process, so the thought of doing it again is overwhelming. But you're also correct that she gave me plenty of fair warning.

    Yep, MonkeyMama. So far I would not say that 2009 will go down as a banner year for me so far. Thanks for the hug. Smile

  10. B in FL Says:

    The "reason" she gave you is an excuse. If she and the
    kids were adamant about it-she should have spelled that
    out in detail from the beginning. Is there no Lease
    or any written agreement? People who "forget" to tell
    you, UP FRONT, important details such as this-are
    f-l-a-k-y. The so-called advance notice is a joke. Do
    yourself a favor and start looking elsewhere now. Moving is hard work-I've done my share. When things such as this are done to hardworking, responsible people such as yourself-it makes my blood boil, as I
    have no tolerance for this. Wish I was there to help you out-

  11. LuxLiving Says:

    Royally sucks that it was in a note. :{ What brought this on all of a sudden?

    And it isn't fair notice when you told her how long you were looking for a place clearly up front.

    I too wish I could give you a hug AND a spare room!

    Keep this in mind, following her time-frame may turn out for the best - after you are there for a while, you may find yourself aching for the deadline to be up so you can get out of there! It might be a blessing in disguise.

  12. frugaltexan Says:

    Thanks B,

    there is a lease agreement, but it is open ended as to length of time. I really should have gotten it in writing .....

    Thanks Lux,

    I think what may have prompted it is that I've offhandedly mentioned the 2 year time frame several different times since moving in - such as " you can use these garbage bags, no sense in them sitting in the garage for two years"

    I've really tried to keep out of their way and not intrude on their family life - maybe she doesn't like how much attention the dogs are paying me? Last night Nikki jumped on my bed and stayed with me for maybe half an hour ....

    It's not like living like this is my first choice - but you do what you have to do, right?

  13. B in FL Says:

    I'll bet you have some "connections"-people who could
    quite possibly help you in a search for a new place to
    live-Parents/Church/E at the Gym/friends etc. etc. And
    yes-you do what you have to do to get through. No one is blaming you-we are all following you closely through
    this Blog-and really wish we could help you out. Time
    flies so fast-you'll be on your way out in no time. Just kills me to see you have to move again-between this, and your car, and school, and your job-You're
    making me feel like I'm on vacation-LOL...P.S. How is your Brother doing?? Has he moved/enrolled in Nursing School?? Keep us posted...

  14. frugaltexan75 Says:

    Thanks B,

    I didn't think anyone here was blaming me for anything. The SA blogging community is the best! Good people.

    I just started attending the local church, but yes, in a few months I may have some contacts there who could help me find something else. E also is a possible source - in fact today he told me that he might have two rooms I could rent for around $400/month next May. I'm not too sure about doing that - he's my boss in a way ... and is only three-years younger than me.

    Either way, I'm sure something will come up, or maybe some other good change in life circumstances will occur for me (one can always hope, right?)

    My brother is doing ok. He stayed with our youngest uncle for the last four months or so, and will be moving out shortly into a place away from relatives. Smile As of right now he's not in any kind of a school, (he didn't get the best grades his first two years of college, so is having a hard time getting accepted into nursing school), but I think he's still planning on going that route eventually. I think he's still in recovery mode, even though he says he feels freer than ever. Now that we both have iPhones, we have a lot of short and sweet communications. Big Grin

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