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First week over :) etc.

August 10th, 2014 at 03:33 am

All in all, I think I am going to really like my new job. The part that scared me the most about it - figuring out bus routes for people - has gotten easier and easier everyday. Other things I do, such as sell passes to people at the window, is pretty interesting. Some of the people who come there ... are quite characters. Smile

My boss, K, is pretty funny. On Friday we moved my phone to the other part of the desk so that I would not have my back turned to the window when on the phone. We realized that the phone cord wasn't long enough. So after a bit of trial and error, we got a 25 ft cord. When it arrived, I was on the phone. K proceeded to use it as a jump rope, and then pretended it was a lasso ... all while I was somehow not bursting out laughing. Smile(K is at least 55+)

I also got two hours of overtime in on Wednesday helping out selling passes at a school open house. Kind of cool getting paid for doing stuff after regular work hours. Smile Not something I'm used to. In a school, you just do it - no pay expected.

I *think* my health benefits may start as soon as September 1. I need to double check this since the person talking about it went really fast. My retirement benefits won't start until February 1. I can't take a sick day or a vacation day until after February 1 (but they start accruing already.)


I haven't heard from my new landlords about my apartment and when I'll be able to move in. I meant to call tonight, but forgot. Smile

I am really ready to be in my own place again. Really ready.

Other than my job, I am struggling with this move.

I have tried out most of the area churches affiliated with SDA, and thought I found one that fit. The people in the Sabbath School class I've attended 3 times now seem really friendly.

But I'm still sitting by myself during church service.

I knew going into this that NE would not attend church with me. I hoped I would meet people who'd invite me to sit with them or something, so I wouldn't feel that loss so much. But obviously it hasn't happened.

NE isn't much into doing anything other than lounging in his apt or surfing the net. I was really hoping to meet people at church who might want to do things with me. Hasn't happened yet.

I guess I'm feeling really lonely. There was a free concert tonight at the church, and I decided to not attend mainly because I just couldn't face sitting by myself yet again.

This was part of the reason why I didn't attend church very regularly in New Mexico. I had no one to really sit with the majority of the time. I so was hoping that would change with a bigger church.

NE has tried to accommodate me with doing things once in awhile ... but makes such a big deal out of it, I'd rather not do anything in the first place.

I've gained 8lbs since moving here. Lots of it I think is from stress eating (i.e. junkfood) and some of it also from the first month where we were eating out *a lot*. I'm really hoping that once I move into my own place and have more control over kitchen/food/ etc that I'll be able to get back on track.

I did work out 4 x this week - 2x at the gym at my office - running (ha ha) barefoot on a treadmill.

Almost forgot - I'd love ideas on how to make it easier to clean 5 cat litter pans? It's killing my back every time I do it ... which makes it so I'm not doing it daily like they need.

12 Responses to “First week over :) etc.”

  1. mamasita Says:

    So glad to hear an update from you, I knew you would find something that helps you meet your goals!
    Hopefully soon you will meet like minded friends who share the same interests as you. It's hard to Not gain weight when you have to wait for someone else who just wants to lounge around on the internet during precious free time.
    I would look into meetup, it's fun to check out the different groups that are out there. A great way to meet new friends and check out the area.

  2. creditcardfree Says:

    I'm glad the job seems to be a good fit!!

    I'm sorry that the church community is not as welcoming. We have found that here a little bit, too. In fact, just talked to a store owner who said that while the people are nice, they aren't good at pulling new people into their community, since they themselves have always been here and can't relate to being new in a community. I have to agree that is the case here, and likely where you are to some degree.

    I know my sister has met people in the running community. She has volunteered for the City Marathon. You might look for those opportunities. Smile

  3. snafu Says:

    I wonder if there are programs that typically start in the fall like bible study or volunteer opportunities that automatically involve you in the community. We've moved a lot and found volunteer work was a fast slide into acceptance in a new community. Would you be interested in offering tutoring at church/SDS community? Is there a visiting program for seniors or those hospitalized? If these aren't available, would you be willing to talk to your minister/congregational leader for suggestions as how you could help? Getting involved in the congregation's Newsletter can be a fun task and have people get to know you. They all like their good deeds acknowledged in the newsletter.

  4. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    Thanks for the ideas everyone.

    CCF - Maybe that is part of it. That they have never been new somewhere and don't think about how to make someone new feel welcome.

    Mamasita - I looked into meetup before moving out here and didn't see much. I should take another look though.

    Snafu - I really like the volunteer idea. Maybe a lot of things will start up now that school is starting too. This is a big university town - three different universities - so a lot of activity probably revolves around the college kids.

  5. LuckyRobin Says:

    Laura, why don't you snag the friendliest someone after the Sabbath School class that you like and say that you are having a hard time meeting people and ask if they could introduce you around the congregation? And ask if they'd mind if you sat with them for a while so you wouldn't be on your own? All they can do is say no and they will probably say yes. Does your church have potlucks after? I always found that a great way to get to know people.

  6. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    Thanks LF. I guess I could try that. In some situations I am SO shy that to think about doing that makes my heart skip a beat .... Potlucks .... they are torture for me unless I'm sitting with people I already know and enjoy ... Don't mean to be contrarian.

  7. My English Castle Says:

    As usual, snafu has great ideas. I've met more people volunteering than anywhere else. And once you get your own space, you can always invite some of those people over for a meal or a movie? I've also met some cool folks at places like library book nights--or our university has a Great Books discussion night. And we know you love the library!

  8. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    MEC - I have looked into local book clubs actually - before I came out here. I need to look into them a bit more and see which ones are actually still active. Good idea!

  9. My English Castle Says:

    I was thinking of you yesterday as I was sitting in church. And it made me go out of my way and talk to some of the older ladies, many of whom sit alone. It shouldn't be a lonely place, but I guess sometimes people just don't think. Me included.

  10. CB in the City Says:

    Do you think you could just slide in next to someone in a pew and whisper "Do I you mind if I sit here?" I understand shyness very well, but it could be that people think you WANT to be alone. Some do.

  11. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    MEC - I'm glad you did that. I bet the ladies really appreciated being noticed.

    CB - I've done that ... but even so it still is like I am alone. Most of the time once they say that no one is sitting there, I don't have any more interaction. My last church in Texas really spoiled me I think. Never before nor since have I ever felt so much a part of a church family. I had to fight myself to stay home when I was sick because I didn't want to miss church there. Not usual for me at all.

  12. sandy Says:

    Why are you cleaning 5 litter pans when 4 of the cats are his?

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