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June 14th, 2012 at 10:58 pm

Hi all. Been really busy with family and preparing for the memorial service this week. My brother and I started to gO through dads shed in the backyard yesterday. He had to have 300 or mo more VHS tapes! We also found his old record collection - I'm going to take those, although I'll need to find a record player.

We got one of those scammer calls today where this guy asks for grandma, then when I told them I was her granddaughter, he asked me to guess who he was. I guessed a name ( only young male relative) and he was like " you got it!" then my aunt got on the phone and knew it wasn't that persons voice. He also mentioned something about a surprise trip to S America.

That really steamed me that someone would attempt to prey on my grandma - especially right now.

I have a question - when your ex- husband dies, and it is barely 5 days later, is that an appropriate time to bring up the topic of retirement money owed to you or that you may need to consult a lawyer, but want to make sure it won't throw things in probate? This is after she's been told that it probably is best that she not come due to very hard feelings towards her from her ex's family.

It's so strange how I can be in a roomful of people who loved my dad feeling ok, then someone says something and all I want to do is cry.

In financial news I now have a car payment of $245/mo. I loathe having a car payment and wish I had more saved up. But I know this would've made my dad very very happy, and the rest of my family are very happy about it as well. That makes it a little easier to do. ..plus I plan to pay extra when possible to get rid of it ASAP!!

Thanks again everyone for your thoughts and prayers.

9 Responses to “Short note”

  1. laura Says:

    Dear Laura,

    Thinking of you during this difficult time and wishing you strength.


  2. MonkeyMama Says:

    Probably not polite but very common. My grandma's estate was mostly settled in like 5 days. Greedy kids. In that case I knew it beat the alternative - lots of fighting! There's always someone who only sees $$$$$ with a death. So sorry you have to deal with this.

  3. creditcardfree Says:

    ((Hugs)) You are having completely normal reactions in your time of grief. The sadness often comes in waves.

  4. Swimgirl Says:

    My grandmother's estate was settled in a matter of hours, I swear! I was really upset about it at the time, but on the plus side, it didn't get dragged out for a long time. And I guess if there are financial questions, that might be the time to ask-- when everyone is together. I know that it doesn't feel good, though. I'm so sorry.

    Been thinking about you. Hope all those records bring back some great memories!

  5. Petunia 100 Says:

    I think it is natural for your mom to begin to wonder about any retirement money owed to her, but think it is extremely insensitive to bring it up to her own children who are grieving.


  6. rob62521 Says:

    Sorry for your sorrow.

  7. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    It's awful to have to talk about finances of your Dad like that, but it might really be necessary even at that time. Very sorry.

  8. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    Thanks everyone.

    If it were just the asking questions about retirement, that would be one thing. My brother and I were discussing some of the financial aspects within a day (such as the car, notifying various people/financial places, etc.) It's more that this is the culmination of a pattern for this particular person.

    I'm really looking forward to the SA meetup in San Fran now, hopefully it will be a good diversion for my mind. (I'll take my grandma with me to San Jose, and then we'll drive back together - she'll get to spend a few days with her daughter.)

  9. Looking Forward Says:

    Good luck with everything.
    Still sending you ((HUGS)).

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