We had one of our silent tiffs Friday night. I was pretty much ready to call it quits then, but knew he was working Saturday and Sunday nights. I cleaned his place as kind of a goodbye gift I guess.
He didn't contact me until 6:30 Monday night - via a text. He came over at 7:30 and within the first few minutes as he was trying to put it out there - I told him that it seemed like we'd both reached the same conclusion.
Have it finished before we started hating each other.
Even though this is something I knew needed to be done, I still feel so bereft. So sad. So much like maybe I'm just meant to be alone.
We exchanged house keys. He'll be bringing over my dad's computer sometime next week - I've been letting him use it to post ebay photos.
Now I've got to figure out how I'm going to get my mirror hung and the table put together. Oh well, that's the least of it.
It's a good thing I guess that I don't have any sick days I can use right now. Need to keep busy.
over :(
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((hugs)) I will pray for you.
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September 2nd, 2014 at 06:25 am 1409635544
Just because this particular relationship did not work out, it does not mean you are meant to be alone. And let me tell you from experience, there are worse things than being alone. {{{more hugs}}}
September 2nd, 2014 at 12:59 pm 1409659140
Maybe it doesn't feel like it now, but I am glad you tried first, even if it did not work out.
Also, please don't think that you are meant to be alone... unless that is what you actually choose to do with your life.
Online dating sites are just a tool... a means to meet people.
Sorry if this seems like lecturing. That's the last thing you need right now. In any case, I am very sorry to hear that. Please take care.
...crazy crazy notion, but can I get a link to your online profile? I know, super tacky. You can say no hahah.
September 2nd, 2014 at 01:02 pm 1409659342
I was talking to my brother last night and he told me that I should make a list of ten things I want to do, and then start to do them. Now that I don't have to budget in restaurants, maybe I can put in - join a real gym. I do get some kind of an employee discount, although I'm not sure how much. Also there's some movies I've been wanting to see .. some museums I've been wanting to try ... a vegan restaurant in the big O that CB told us about that looks neat (although it looks like I'd have to budget for that one for awhile $$)
It also seems that the local church here is just starting to gear up with activities now. Good timing I guess for me to get involved.
Sigh. My hearts just not in all of this yet. The strange thing is, this breakup was much easier on me than the first one ten+ years ago. Maybe because I kind of was preparing for it for weeks and had most of the sadness worked out of my system.
September 2nd, 2014 at 01:03 pm 1409659415
Hugs!
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September 2nd, 2014 at 01:56 pm 1409662572
Dear Laura,
I hope that you are feeling a bit better today and that you slept well. Maybe a sigh of relief that the end has come and gone. I believe that you are a gift to someone that you don't know yet, and I do hope that you keep that door open. I haven't dated in a quarter of a century, but the two people I love most in this world who are my contemporaries are my brother and best friend. And they are both single, though my brother is engaged. I know that both of them have hung up the hat on love several times, but the hiatus has been a time of taking stock, etc. I second the online dating as an option.
Well, just wanted to let you know that I've been thinking about you and wishing you well.
Laura
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September 2nd, 2014 at 03:35 pm 1409668520
It sounds like this guy was NOT the one for you, but I think he's still out there. Don't ever give up hope. Meanwhile, enjoy your life as it is. Your brother's suggestion is a good one. I think I'll make a list of ten things I want to do, too!
September 2nd, 2014 at 04:54 pm 1409673271
I am saddened for you. On the other hand there is a whole new chapter about to unfold and it's good timing as far as the church activity start up goes.
September 2nd, 2014 at 05:14 pm 1409674493
Laura - thanks I'm not going to close myself from dating again in the future. I just don't know if I have it in me to actively look
Ima, Scottish girl, Stephanie - thanks
CB - thanks I hope you'll share your list. Might give me some ideas
Thanks Wow - I'm really trying to look at like that. Although at the moment I'm concentrating on not crying at work.
September 2nd, 2014 at 07:28 pm 1409682489
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September 3rd, 2014 at 02:35 am 1409708157
Sorry things turned out this way, but I am glad that you reached out to NE for another try anyway. I think it's better to know that things weren't going to work vs. always wondering"what if".
Making a list is a great idea - time to focus more on what you want.
And now you are in a much more populated area so I have hopes that will help you meet lots more people.
I really feel as though this is one of those times when God closes a door but opens a window.
September 3rd, 2014 at 09:16 pm 1409775380
September 4th, 2014 at 04:31 pm 1409844695
Keep in touch with old friends
Visit one new restaurant each month
Visit a new museum/art gallery -- one I've never been to before
Take my grandson birdwatching
Go on a color tour when the leaves start turning
Go to a college football game -- I've been here 5 years and haven't done it yet!
Drive my cousin to Florida (this is in the works already)
Check out painting classes
Start playing my recorder, for heaven's sake!
Get mani/pedi's on a regular basis
September 5th, 2014 at 12:09 am 1409872145
debtfree30 - I haven't given up hope, I just don't feel like actively looking anymore. I'm just going to do what I want to do and not look at guys one way or the other.
LF - That is the upside of this - I'm in a much more populated area, not to mention an Adventist mecca (one of our college towns.)
SS - My apartment is in a converted office building - so no amenities. I'm thinking of asking at church on Sabbath if anyone could help me out with the mirror and table.
CB - I love your list! I'm working on mine, and actually will be doing one of them tonight.
September 5th, 2014 at 04:30 am 1409887857
I love the list idea and can't wait to hear about your list-y adventures!
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September 6th, 2014 at 03:24 am 1409970242
Thanks PS - Maybe it isn't. The last few days I have almost felt like maybe this is just how it should be. Me and a cat (or maybe a cat and a dog someday). This relationship is the longest one I've ever had, although the majority of it was over long distance.
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