I typed up a nice long post and forgot my typical advice to copy it to a clipboard before posting ... just in case. And of course I'd gotten logged out because in the middle of typing I got into a text convo, so it took awhile. So nice long post -- gone.
Short of it -- Long, busy week at school. End of first quarter, major hiccups with online grading program that computer tech person and I got to handle. Look to be worked out now. (cross fingers!) Parent teacher conferences on Tuesday - hope to finish book inventory and get started on processing new books. Must put a moratorium on my buying books for the library. MUST.
Co-worker who found out she was pregnant, miscarried last Thursday night. No support from family - taken to hospital by brother, then he left. I didn't find out til Monday morning.
Really missing my Texas church family. I do like my life here, my job, my home, etc. Just if we could transport my Lew****** church family to here ... then it would be perfect. If I wanted the stress of it ... I'd offer (make a strong suggestion) to be worship leader/coordinator. Today they mentioned Nov 5 is supposed to be "community church" day - where we invite coworkers/friends. HAH! I'd be seriously embarrassed right now to invite anyone. Not that they aren't good people - because they are good people. But they are seriously organizationally challenged. It makes it *really* difficult for me to talk myself into going to church each Sabbath - let alone invite someone who knows nothing about our church (other than what they might see in me.)
Ugh - Logged Out
October 23rd, 2011 at 05:37 am
October 23rd, 2011 at 06:12 am 1319346755
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October 23rd, 2011 at 03:08 pm 1319378899
Having been through this myself, all I can say is the most meaningful words to me were "your" baby versus "the" baby. THe babies that I have lost were mine and it helped that someone at least acknowledged that, rather than the "Oh, it was God's will" and "It is better this way" were the worst.
As far as what to do, just be there. Even if your friend is silent and doesn't have much to say (grief can be all consuming) she will feel better that she is not alone.
I, too, offer prayers for your friend.
October 23rd, 2011 at 06:36 pm 1319391404
For me, just a hug or a hand on my shoulder and genuine sympathy without trying to make me feel better was the best thing. Sometimes things suck, and we must acknowledge the suck. People feel what they feel, and telling them to not feel that way is arrogant and cheapening the experience they are going through. Sympathy, yes. Glossing over valid emotions, no.
October 23rd, 2011 at 07:03 pm 1319393018
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Jerry
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October 24th, 2011 at 04:51 am 1319428305
LuckyRobin, That's what I'm trying to not be -- annoying. We work pretty closely together, so I guess I'm just not sure what the right balance is of just going forward like normal, but also being supportive is ...