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What Should I do? Moral/Financial ?

September 12th, 2010 at 08:41 pm

Well, I'm back from delivering/picking up items from mom's "friend". Of course he couldn't leave it at just a simple pickup/delivery.

Mom's birthday is this coming Saturday. Her "friend" handed me an envelope with a ten dollar bill and specifications on a white rose/baby's breath that he wanted me to purchase and give to her for her birthday -- without attaching his name to it. I didn't know what to say, so I took it.

I asked my brother what he thought I should do. He added some expletives, but basically told me he didn't think that I should make the purchase.

I am thinking that maybe I could use it to purchase the perfume which she actually asked for, and never mention where part of the money came from. I don't think it would do her *any* good at all to know. Purchasing the flower without giving "friends" name would be a dead give away as to who it was from, because it wouldn't be something I normally would do.

After the late evening run to get her out of "friends" apartment a bit over a week ago, plus the two-hour round trip today to pick up items we'd missed the first time, I sincerely hope that she has no need to ever be in contact with him again.

So ... I guess this is my question. Should I purchase the flower like he asked? Should I use the money to purchase the perfume my mom wants? Should I mail the money back to him along with a note telling him I wasn't comfortable doing it? Something else?

I just SO hate being put in the middle like this!!!

Posted in General, Frugal Single Life | 10 Comments »

10 Responses to “What Should I do? Moral/Financial ?”

  1. KellyB Says:
    September 12th, 2010 at 08:45 pm 1284324348
    1284324348

    Mail the money back.

  2. terri77 Says:
    September 12th, 2010 at 09:00 pm 1284325249
    1284325249

    He gave you the money to purchase a specific thing, if you don't feel comfortable doing so mail it back.

  3. creditcardfree Says:
    September 12th, 2010 at 10:15 pm 1284329700
    1284329700

    I would give it back. If he wants to give a gift to her, he needs to mail or deliver it himself.

  4. My English Castle Says:
    September 12th, 2010 at 10:16 pm 1284329817
    1284329817

    I think he caught you at an awkward moment. I'd give him the money back. he sounds like he's being manipulative, and you don't want to be a part of that.

  5. momcents Says:
    September 12th, 2010 at 10:48 pm 1284331723
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    Send the money back - you don't need to give an explanation. He will know that it is being returned to him. Shame on him for putting you in that position!

  6. Frugaltexan75 Says:
    September 12th, 2010 at 11:03 pm 1284332583
    1284332583

    Thanks everyone. I think that is what I'm going to do - mail it back to him.

  7. MonkeyMama Says:
    September 13th, 2010 at 12:56 am 1284339379
    1284339379

    Sounds like you made up your mind - I certainly agree. In addition, I think I would be done running these errands for your mom. Now it just puts you in an even more ackward spot.

  8. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
    September 13th, 2010 at 01:17 am 1284340649
    1284340649

    Here's more agreement with everyone else and for the same reasons.

  9. Frugaltexan75 Says:
    September 13th, 2010 at 01:22 am 1284340969
    1284340969

    MonkeyMama,

    Thanks. Hopefully this is it. Mom is still recovering from her surgery right now - spacey from pain meds - although even if that wasn't the case ....

    Thanks Joan


  10. Looking Forward Says:
    September 13th, 2010 at 06:36 pm 1284403007
    1284403007

    Good Choice! Smile

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